My Grief Is No Less Because You Think It Should Be

I didn’t ask “why” much as a child. Perhaps it was my “good girl” nature that made asking why feel like a challenge to the person being questioned, and that felt uncomfortable. So instead, I read books, dictionary entries, and encyclopedias for answers to my whys. Those days are behind me, and I’ve started asking…

Is Your Gingerbread House Crumbling?

In this season between Thanksgiving and the New Year, we have many opportunities to gather, celebrate, spend, indulge—and overindulge! I’m usually all in starting the Friday after Thanksgiving, but this year, I haven’t felt that way, and I’m curious about that. (It could be the warm weather we’re having, which is more suited to sand…

Reflecting on Gratitude

Each fall, as my Instagram feed fills with #30daysofgratitude challenges, I find myself reflecting more deeply on what I am grateful for. Although I don’t document my daily thoughts, being grateful is an intrinsic part of who I am. It streams through my mind like the blood that flows through my veins. It permeates my…

People-Pleasing and the Art of Friendship

Today (August 6) is National Friendship Day, so it seems appropriate to post what I’m learning about myself in adult friendships. Enjoy! I never saw myself as a people pleaser until I lost a long-time friendship and had to consider the path that led to its demise. Instagrammer Hailey Page Magee (@haileypaigemagee) shared these people-pleasing…

Never Underestimate Your Impact

When I was a college student, I had an opportunity to work for Councilmember Harold “Rusty” Fairly. I was interning for his public affairs consultant, who said, “I want you to go help Rusty out.” So I walked a block over to City Hall and met the man who would be like a second father…

Motherhood Isn’t A Position You Can Resign From

May is mental health month and I’m thrilled to be seeing such a targeted focus on raising awareness and reducing the stigma around mental illness. I’m trying to do my part to add my voice in a productive way and am grateful to the Independent for sharing this article. Surviving Motherhood: Motherhood Isn’t A Position…

Wrapping It Up

Winter is upon us. And when I picture this season, the images that come to mind include twinkling white lights calling us to peaceful merriment, the scent of Christmas trees and giant pine wreaths, the joy of baking goodies, visiting with those near and far, and the excitement of finding gifts for loved ones—expected and…

You’ve Finished Your Manuscript, Now What

Tips for Self-Publishing Authors So, you’ve finished your manuscript and are waiting for the edits or your interior formatting, or your proof copy to arrive. With this extra time on your hands, you can amplify your book and author presence—for FREE—with these seven easy strategies. To get started, keep your key book information in a…

Detachment and Boundaries

About nine years ago, I was at a therapy appointment discussing the challenges in my marriage. As I reluctantly described my woes, the therapist listened for a while and then said, “I think your husband might be an alcoholic.” I was shocked as she handed me a copy of Codependent No More and an Al-Anon…

Pursue Your Passion

An email for a 4-day writing workshop arrived over the weekend. It was the same workshop that set me on my book-writing adventure. Back then, I recall being unsure whether I should sign up, even though it was free, because of the intensity of my job at the time. (Think back to January 2021. In…