Wrapping It Up

Winter is upon us. And when I picture this season, the images that come to mind include twinkling white lights calling us to peaceful merriment, the scent of Christmas trees and giant pine wreaths, the joy of baking goodies, visiting with those near and far, and the excitement of finding gifts for loved ones—expected and…

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Detachment and Boundaries

About nine years ago, I was at a therapy appointment discussing the challenges in my marriage. As I reluctantly described my woes, the therapist listened for a while and then said, “I think your husband might be an alcoholic.” I was shocked as she handed me a copy of Codependent No More and an Al-Anon…

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Pursue Your Passion

An email for a 4-day writing workshop arrived over the weekend. It was the same workshop that set me on my book-writing adventure. Back then, I recall being unsure whether I should sign up, even though it was free, because of the intensity of my job at the time. (Think back to January 2021. In…

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Mother’s Day and Mental Health

May is Mental Health Awareness Month and the month in which we celebrate mothers. With that in mind, I am saying yes to several opportunities to talk about mental health from the perspective of a mom whose teens experienced significant anxiety and depression. But first, I want to share A Blessing for Mother’s Day, by…

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Living With Purpose

Tom and Valerie Cantella outside in front of a tree

A few weeks ago, I shared this post, and I want to speak to the “why.” Today my husband Tom is celebrating seven years of sobriety. On his first sober birthday, he invited me to “give him a cake” at an AA meeting. I had no idea what to expect as I imagined AA as…

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Falling in Love

Happy February! I hope love abounds in your life during this month focused on affection and romance (and the Super Bowl and Olympics!) These days, I find myself falling in love. Except instead of falling for a person, I’m falling in love with my life, the life I was always meant to have. I have…

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Excitement and gratitude in the new year

“Enter this new year with a gratitude for this new chance to create your dreams.” Avina Celeste There’s something about the passing of one year and the beginning of another that sparks excitement for me, like turning the page in a book, anticipating the next chapter. And this year will have new beginnings, opportunities, and…

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The Gifts of 2021

It’s hard for me to believe it’s already December. So much has changed this year, and I’m pleased to share some gifts of this year. In January I received an email from Hay House about a free week-long writers’ workshop which required an investment of an hour workshop each day + homework. With the pandemic…

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Standing Naked On The Stage

It’s hard for me to believe it’s already December. So much has changed this year, and I’m pleased to share some gifts of this year. In January I received an email from Hay House about a free week-long writers’ workshop which required an investment of an hour workshop each day + homework. With the pandemic…

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Kayak, Snorkel or Paddle?

As I sit on the balcony watching the dolphins frolic in the ocean nearby, I feel content and relaxed. When we booked this vacation to Jamaica back in January, we were excited to have something to look forward to for our third anniversary. There were many things we didn’t know about what our lives would…

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