12 Days of Christmas (Memoir-Writer Edition)

12 Days of Christmas Writing Prompts

Every December, I love finding small ways to reconnect with my creativity. This year, I decided to give the classic “12 Days of Christmas” a memoir-writer twist — something light, joyful, and totally permission-giving with ChatGPT.This is what we came up with: On the first day of Christmas, my memoir book coach gave to me:…

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How the Story Unfolds: Chapter One

Chapter 1: Don't judge my story by the chapter you walked in on by Valerie Cantella at ValerieCantella.com

Angry storm clouds, pregnant with rain, screamed with lightning as I gripped the seat handles and stared out the window of the plane, willing this trip to Montana to be over. The dark, tumultuous sky seemed to mirror our family’s last two and a half months. I gazed at my thirteen-year-old daughter, Katie, as she…

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How Writing Helps Me Hold What’s Hard

Valerie Cantella with her daughter Katie outside at valeriecantella.com

For almost 25 years, I’ve been writing about the girl who would become my daughter—trying to make sense of a parenting journey that has looked nothing like the one I once imagined. From the posts I sent to listservs during our Russian adoption process (back when the internet was barely finding its legs), to my…

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Never Underestimate Your Impact

When I was a college student, I had an opportunity to work for Councilmember Harold “Rusty” Fairly. I was interning for his public affairs consultant, who said, “I want you to go help Rusty out.” So I walked a block over to City Hall and met the man who would be like a second father…

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You’ve Finished Your Manuscript, Now What

Antique typewriter on white counter by ValerieCantella.com

Tips for Self-Publishing Authors So, you’ve finished your manuscript and are waiting for the edits or your interior formatting, or your proof copy to arrive. With this extra time on your hands, you can amplify your book and author presence—for FREE—with these seven easy strategies. To get started, keep your key book information in a…

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What I Know Now About Marriage

Valerie Cantella and husband in Eastern Sierras with a lake in the background

This weekend my husband and I celebrated our fourth anniversary, and it got me thinking about our wedding ceremony and intimate relationships in general. Many of these things also apply to our head and heart relationships with ourselves. So here goes: What I know now, in my second marriage with almost 23 years of cumulative…

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You’ve Completed Your Book Proposal, Now What?

Wildflowers with unputdownable book called Off-Script: a mom's journey through adoption, a husband's alcoholism, and special needs parenting memoir in tablet and paperback version by Valerie Cantella

Insight from the year of my Hay House author membership and self-publishing journey For those who have just turned in their proposal for the Hay House Contest—big congratulations! Going through this process is so unique—it’s a demanding, time-consuming, and enriching experience—one that few truly understand. As someone who submitted a book proposal in June 2021,…

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Living With Purpose

Tom and Valerie Cantella outside in front of a tree

A few weeks ago, I shared this post, and I want to speak to the “why.” Today my husband Tom is celebrating seven years of sobriety. On his first sober birthday, he invited me to “give him a cake” at an AA meeting. I had no idea what to expect as I imagined AA as…

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Falling in Love

Happy February! I hope love abounds in your life during this month focused on affection and romance (and the Super Bowl and Olympics!) These days, I find myself falling in love. Except instead of falling for a person, I’m falling in love with my life, the life I was always meant to have. I have…

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Excitement and gratitude in the new year

“Enter this new year with a gratitude for this new chance to create your dreams.” Avina Celeste There’s something about the passing of one year and the beginning of another that sparks excitement for me, like turning the page in a book, anticipating the next chapter. And this year will have new beginnings, opportunities, and…

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