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Valerie Cantella Book Coach | Communication Strategist
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    • About Valerie
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  • Is Your Gingerbread House Crumbling?

    By Valerie Cantella | December 17, 2023

    In this season between Thanksgiving and the New Year, we have many opportunities to gather, celebrate, spend, indulge—and overindulge! I’m usually all in starting the Friday after Thanksgiving, but this year, I haven’t felt that way, and I’m curious about that. (It could be the warm weather we’re having, which…

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  • Reflecting on Gratitude

    By Valerie Cantella | November 17, 2023

    Each fall, as my Instagram feed fills with #30daysofgratitude challenges, I find myself reflecting more deeply on what I am grateful for. Although I don’t document my daily thoughts, being grateful is an intrinsic part of who I am. It streams through my mind like the blood that flows through…

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  • People-Pleasing and the Art of Friendship

    By Valerie Cantella | August 6, 2023

    Today (August 6) is National Friendship Day, so it seems appropriate to post what I’m learning about myself in adult friendships. Enjoy! I never saw myself as a people pleaser until I lost a long-time friendship and had to consider the path that led to its demise. Instagrammer Hailey Page…

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  • Motherhood Isn’t A Position You Can Resign From

    By Valerie Cantella | May 17, 2023

    May is mental health month and I’m thrilled to be seeing such a targeted focus on raising awareness and reducing the stigma around mental illness. I’m trying to do my part to add my voice in a productive way and am grateful to the Independent for sharing this article. Surviving…

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  • Wrapping It Up

    By Valerie Cantella | December 17, 2022

    Winter is upon us. And when I picture this season, the images that come to mind include twinkling white lights calling us to peaceful merriment, the scent of Christmas trees and giant pine wreaths, the joy of baking goodies, visiting with those near and far, and the excitement of finding…

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  • Detachment and Boundaries

    By Valerie Cantella | November 7, 2022

    About nine years ago, I was at a therapy appointment discussing the challenges in my marriage. As I reluctantly described my woes, the therapist listened for a while and then said, “I think your husband might be an alcoholic.” I was shocked as she handed me a copy of Codependent…

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  • Pursue Your Passion

    By Valerie Cantella | October 11, 2022

    An email for a 4-day writing workshop arrived over the weekend. It was the same workshop that set me on my book-writing adventure. Back then, I recall being unsure whether I should sign up, even though it was free, because of the intensity of my job at the time. (Think…

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  • Mother’s Day and Mental Health

    By Valerie Cantella | May 17, 2022

    May is Mental Health Awareness Month and the month in which we celebrate mothers. With that in mind, I am saying yes to several opportunities to talk about mental health from the perspective of a mom whose teens experienced significant anxiety and depression. But first, I want to share A…

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  • Living With Purpose

    By Valerie Cantella | April 17, 2022

    A few weeks ago, I shared this post, and I want to speak to the “why.” Today my husband Tom is celebrating seven years of sobriety. On his first sober birthday, he invited me to “give him a cake” at an AA meeting. I had no idea what to expect…

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  • Falling in Love

    By Valerie Cantella | February 1, 2022

    Happy February! I hope love abounds in your life during this month focused on affection and romance (and the Super Bowl and Olympics!) These days, I find myself falling in love. Except instead of falling for a person, I’m falling in love with my life, the life I was always…

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